Spring Break
'Mama's boys' meet their match
JESSICA BROWN
Issue date: 3/5/09 Section: Out & About
For Lulu Taylor, 'he's a mama's boy' is not a phrase used just as an excuse to dump a guy.
She believes the term encompasses a man's inability to evolve and create healthy relationships apart from his mother and significant others.
"I want us, as a community, to dig deeper and find out why some mothers develop this unhealthy dynamic with their sons and others do not," Taylor said.
Taylor has written down her observations, beliefs and opinions on the subject in her first novel, "Stop the Mama's Boys."
She will be reading excerpts from the book at Mama's Boy restaurant Saturday.
"I wanted to write a book so that all parties in this 'triangle' of mother, son and girlfriend could really see and understand the negative effects of this dysfunctional relationship," Taylor said.
Sick and tired of the epidemic she saw growing, Taylor has taken action against this "race" of boys that seemingly overpopulate dating communities.
"Nature did not intend for a boy to remain a boy. And, if you have a man still living at home or in a position where his mama is still making decisions for him ... well … that's a problem," she said. "Do women want to marry boys or men?"
The discussion will not simply be empathic toward women. Taylor said she wants men included.
"I also want men to read this book and question their boundaries with their mothers," she said.
While the subject matter is serious, Taylor knows it can be taken lightly, and seen as a joke or even offensive by others. For this, she also has a solution: black book cover.
"I knew that I was writing about a very touchy subject. I'm questioning her mothering skills in terms of this relationship," she said.
With such controversial subject matter, it will be easy for anyone to join in the debate.
She believes the term encompasses a man's inability to evolve and create healthy relationships apart from his mother and significant others.
"I want us, as a community, to dig deeper and find out why some mothers develop this unhealthy dynamic with their sons and others do not," Taylor said.
Taylor has written down her observations, beliefs and opinions on the subject in her first novel, "Stop the Mama's Boys."
She will be reading excerpts from the book at Mama's Boy restaurant Saturday.
"I wanted to write a book so that all parties in this 'triangle' of mother, son and girlfriend could really see and understand the negative effects of this dysfunctional relationship," Taylor said.
Sick and tired of the epidemic she saw growing, Taylor has taken action against this "race" of boys that seemingly overpopulate dating communities.
"Nature did not intend for a boy to remain a boy. And, if you have a man still living at home or in a position where his mama is still making decisions for him ... well … that's a problem," she said. "Do women want to marry boys or men?"
The discussion will not simply be empathic toward women. Taylor said she wants men included.
"I also want men to read this book and question their boundaries with their mothers," she said.
While the subject matter is serious, Taylor knows it can be taken lightly, and seen as a joke or even offensive by others. For this, she also has a solution: black book cover.
"I knew that I was writing about a very touchy subject. I'm questioning her mothering skills in terms of this relationship," she said.
With such controversial subject matter, it will be easy for anyone to join in the debate.
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Sarah Elizabeth Malinak
posted 3/08/09 @ 3:27 PM EST
Mama's boys are not created by mothers alone. It has as much, perhaps more, to do with the physical, mental, and emotional absence of fathers.
When as a teenager a boy doesn't move from the sphere of influence of his mother to the sphere of influence of his father, it is because the invitation was not delivered by the father. (Continued…)
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